Are we supposed to feel sorry for these women?

When I read stories like this I ask myself, are women really that dumb/naïve/stupid? Everyone is entitled to make a mistake or two about choosing a mate. There are some things that are not obvious about the other person immediately, but by the time you marry someone you tend to figure out the basic 411 about your chosen spouse. Some of the basic info you may want to be somewhat well versed before the nuptials: what religion the spouse practices (if any), what kind of relationship the future spouse has with his family, even meeting a sibling or parent would be ideal; where the spouse lives – going to visit the spouse a couple of times in their own environment is optimal; how is your future spouse employed – make sure its not something vague like import/export. These are just the basics one should have some slight knowledge about before running to the alter. One may also want to look for red flags, such as a person who has a parole officer, someone who has a new job every two weeks, someone who is not allowed to have a credit card in his name or doesn’t have a checking account, someone who is uninsurable, someone with a full medicine cabinet and someone who has any kind of attorney on a retainer. All in all, even though our relationships don’t always end up as planned, most of us try to use some parts of our brain in choosing a mate.

These women use NO part of their brain. In an era where news travels faster than the speed of light, where any iota of information a person is seeking is at his fingertips in seconds there is no reason whatsoever why a Jewish girl from Ashdod married a Palestinian man from Tul Karem. No excuses, period! Maybe 25-30 years ago, I can see where one could have been misled. But nowadays? Nowadays, when the stories about how women are treated in the Islamic culture, especially in the PA controlled areas are almost headlines worldwide, they are subjects of UN resolutions. How an Israeli girl can marry a married Palestinian is beyond me.

Tell me I am too harsh, unsympathetic and heartless. I don’t care. If someone doesn’t care about themselves, why should I care about them! If she didn’t have the common sense to find out the basics – like the fact HE WAS A MUSLIM, or he WAS MARRIED is not my problem. I don’t care about how poor and ignorant she was or that it was love at first sight. There are just some basic things you find out about a person before you committing your life to them. If she couldn’t do it for herself, why should people risk their lives getting her out of her self made disaster? As the saying goes don’t get yourself into shit, if you can’t get yourself out of it.

So, again I ask, do I need to feel sorry for these women?